Hey, my name is Mel, I am a 32 yr old single mom with 4 gorgeous boys who literally keep me going daily. Each with their own personalities and sense of humor ( except fart jokes.. those are universal).
Jamaican born and Canadian raised, I migrated to Canada when I was eight years old. My life is kinda interesting ( At least I think so!😒) It’s also very crazy. I figured I might help someone out there by sharing my life through this blog…. So yep, I decided to share
To sum it all up, I am the oldest of 6 ( I basically raised my siblings, while my mother worked.) Also, very sheltered. I was a mom by 19, married by 22, separated by 24, and had 4 boys by 25… I am also lost about who I am ( I think it might be a form of identity crisis.. I don’t know🤷🏾♀️) and limited memory of my life due to traumatic events that took place. I also struggle to talk about my trauma because it was so deeply suppressed, it seems gone until something is triggered.
I find it difficult to accept love, and even more to give it… Basically, I am writing this as one of my paths to self discovery, and to encourage those who find my life relatable.. Sometimes it can feel lonely being in my position, so I want to meet others, and hopefully we can encourage each other.
I feel the need to highlight the term “single mom” as being used lightly, this is because, although my children’s dads are not present in their daily lives, nor do they contribute to their well being in any way; I still live with family so I do get help in some ways, more than a parent who is by his/herself struggling to get by.
Also, my ex- husband who fathered 3 of my children is also one of my good friends from elementary school….. I know!…(I told you it was strange).. Recently we began to video call on the phone and he speaks to the boys regularly, but he is in no position to assist with their upbringing ( more on that later). So those are my two reasons for using the term lightly, at times it feels unbearable for me… I can’t imagine how parents who are alone cope, so I respectfully use the term lightly when referencing myself.
Until next time,
Mel.
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